Why don't we look like Christ?

I've been reading I John, and I have been struck by a repeating trend. That we (the body of Christ) will be known by the way we look like Christ.

The church in America is not exactly known for being Christ-like.

It is as if they have decided that we don't actually have to do that. That was for those people who lived back then. Now being a Christian means voting certain ways and feeling self-righteous about having certain moral views. Oh, and telling people with different views that they are wrong and going to hell. All things that Christ distinctly did NOT do.

I keep thinking if we would just spend more time concentrating on love (like Jesus...) and less time on guns and gays and everything else, we might be a lot closer to what the kingdom was supposed to be.